Define your relationship(part1)
By Okeke Joshua
Okekejoshua312@gmail.com
Reationship in an essential part in any one life, that can either influence one positively or negatively.There are two important words in the topic which are Define and Relationship. According to the English dictionary, To define means to express the essential nature of something and Relationship means a way in which two or more people behave and are involved with eachother.So when we say define your relationship it means making the essential nature of two people been involved with each other known or expressed.
I noticed that people Don't know the reason why they are into a relationship with someone. Some just go into a relationship for some reasons that isnt worth it.Before someone will be able to define his or her relationship, such a person has to first discover what he or she want.Once you Dont have a choice you tends to settle for anything.
The truth is that most time we know what we want, just that we are afraid to admit that or we lack the courage and discipline to stand by it.That is why I do advice people to be clear on what they want before going into any relationship.I love him and I guess he loves me back is too way too shallow to be a reason why you should be in a relationship with other opposite sex.
So first we need to settle the matter of what we want, then that we help in our selection.Relationship is created for a purpose, that is why it need to be define as to what do I want to get out of this stuff or why am i doing this.Remember an adage says when the purpose of a thing isn't define, then an abuse is inevitable.When your relationship is defined it kind of push you to a success in it cause it is what you want that you would be better able to move towards to. Lets move to the various reason why a relationship need to be defined:
1. It gives you a sense of direction: When your relationship is been defined, it kind of give a likely way to where it is heading to. In the sense that it gives you a reason to be in such a relationship, with such a sense of direction it gives your relationship a meaning. As far a relationship is fulfilling its purpose( which are the things you desire) it is meaningful, that is, it worth your time.
2. It helps you not to just accept or settle for just anything: Most people just accept anything that is brought to their table of relationship cause they Dont have anything or purpose to achieve from it.When someone goes into a relationship just for fun or because their mates are in one, they tend to just follow with any tune that comes along cause they have low sense of objection.A relationship that is not adding value to you doesn't worth your time. I have a friend of mine , we call in Philz in school. We were discussing and he said to me that "josh I can be with a lady that for at least a five minutes talk we can't talk of something meaning rather the buy me something syndrome most girls have this days".So for someone like him if the Lady isn't someone with a great mind then there is no need of being on anything serious with her. That is how having a relationship defined or a purpose for a relationship known helps.
3. It serves a red signal for you to back off: Like I said once a relationship isn't fulfilling its purpose you want is a signal for you to back off. If you are in a relationship with someone, and your stand is no sex until marriage which is very right,then your partner all of a suddenly begins to be too demanding for sex, my sister your purpose already define that to you as a red flag to back off with immediate effect.The problem is that people Dont understand that every relationship is meant for a break up except marriage. Once you have that in mind, when your relationship is making you lose your value or purpose, then it makes it easier to back off. So even if he his giving you lies that it is only the head that he will insert as I discoverd recently on my research on the lies men do tell, your purpose mind will already let that being know to you that the relationship is already shifting from what you originally wanted which is fulfillment of purpose.
It is only when you are confuse and unsure that you settle for anything you Dont want.Take a few days or even weeks to get it clear of what you really want and stand by it.Have a standard, and Dont let anyone belittle it for you
I see people make some mistakes cause the have no standard.
The guy will ask then to take some nasty step, and because of no principle they fall to just anything he tell them cause they Dont wat to offend him or lose him.He will tell some send me your nude pics and the lady will do that, funny enough she will ask him to delete it after she sent it.Lolz.The guy will just send them all to a locker app and tell them that he has deleted it. And later he will use that to blackmail her.
Anyone with no sense of drive tends to be driven to any kind of direction.
God bless you.
Part Two of this study coming soon
A subsidiary of Healthy Relationship Tip Publication
By Okeke Joshua
Okekejoshua312@gmail.com
Reationship in an essential part in any one life, that can either influence one positively or negatively.There are two important words in the topic which are Define and Relationship. According to the English dictionary, To define means to express the essential nature of something and Relationship means a way in which two or more people behave and are involved with eachother.So when we say define your relationship it means making the essential nature of two people been involved with each other known or expressed.
I noticed that people Don't know the reason why they are into a relationship with someone. Some just go into a relationship for some reasons that isnt worth it.Before someone will be able to define his or her relationship, such a person has to first discover what he or she want.Once you Dont have a choice you tends to settle for anything.
The truth is that most time we know what we want, just that we are afraid to admit that or we lack the courage and discipline to stand by it.That is why I do advice people to be clear on what they want before going into any relationship.I love him and I guess he loves me back is too way too shallow to be a reason why you should be in a relationship with other opposite sex.
So first we need to settle the matter of what we want, then that we help in our selection.Relationship is created for a purpose, that is why it need to be define as to what do I want to get out of this stuff or why am i doing this.Remember an adage says when the purpose of a thing isn't define, then an abuse is inevitable.When your relationship is defined it kind of push you to a success in it cause it is what you want that you would be better able to move towards to. Lets move to the various reason why a relationship need to be defined:
1. It gives you a sense of direction: When your relationship is been defined, it kind of give a likely way to where it is heading to. In the sense that it gives you a reason to be in such a relationship, with such a sense of direction it gives your relationship a meaning. As far a relationship is fulfilling its purpose( which are the things you desire) it is meaningful, that is, it worth your time.
2. It helps you not to just accept or settle for just anything: Most people just accept anything that is brought to their table of relationship cause they Dont have anything or purpose to achieve from it.When someone goes into a relationship just for fun or because their mates are in one, they tend to just follow with any tune that comes along cause they have low sense of objection.A relationship that is not adding value to you doesn't worth your time. I have a friend of mine , we call in Philz in school. We were discussing and he said to me that "josh I can be with a lady that for at least a five minutes talk we can't talk of something meaning rather the buy me something syndrome most girls have this days".So for someone like him if the Lady isn't someone with a great mind then there is no need of being on anything serious with her. That is how having a relationship defined or a purpose for a relationship known helps.
3. It serves a red signal for you to back off: Like I said once a relationship isn't fulfilling its purpose you want is a signal for you to back off. If you are in a relationship with someone, and your stand is no sex until marriage which is very right,then your partner all of a suddenly begins to be too demanding for sex, my sister your purpose already define that to you as a red flag to back off with immediate effect.The problem is that people Dont understand that every relationship is meant for a break up except marriage. Once you have that in mind, when your relationship is making you lose your value or purpose, then it makes it easier to back off. So even if he his giving you lies that it is only the head that he will insert as I discoverd recently on my research on the lies men do tell, your purpose mind will already let that being know to you that the relationship is already shifting from what you originally wanted which is fulfillment of purpose.
It is only when you are confuse and unsure that you settle for anything you Dont want.Take a few days or even weeks to get it clear of what you really want and stand by it.Have a standard, and Dont let anyone belittle it for you
I see people make some mistakes cause the have no standard.
The guy will ask then to take some nasty step, and because of no principle they fall to just anything he tell them cause they Dont wat to offend him or lose him.He will tell some send me your nude pics and the lady will do that, funny enough she will ask him to delete it after she sent it.Lolz.The guy will just send them all to a locker app and tell them that he has deleted it. And later he will use that to blackmail her.
Anyone with no sense of drive tends to be driven to any kind of direction.
God bless you.
Part Two of this study coming soon
A subsidiary of Healthy Relationship Tip Publication
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